Sensual is my favorite word, a word that immediately conjures images of silk flowing over bare skin, smooth rope just brushing the tip of my nipple, rose petals across my cheeks, a cool breeze on my naked body. This is a word that makes me clench between the legs at the thought of what it brings with it. When I hear the word, it is like it is echoed in a whisper, calling to me, reminding me to stop and enjoy the moment before it is gone.

These thoughts are crazy, I know; but the magic of touch is awe inspiring. Take one night and shut out the world with a blindfold. Do nothing more than spend the night focusing on this specific sense, using different things to arouse your partner, to give them soft, silky, hot and cold, rough, spiky, painful. From candle wax to flogging, entice every inch of their skin, push your partner to their breaking point and then make them delve deeper to enjoy more. Enjoy watching their nipples get hard, their legs get wet and the hair on their skin dance as their body begs for more. Fantasize about what they are feeling and you may find your orgasm reaching new heights.

Sensual is what made spanking and bondage appealing. The thought of the smack as the rubber implement hits my ass or the feel of the leather as the flogger rips across my back. My favorite thought, is the feeling of the rope as it is wrapped slowly and seductively around my body, as if Chris is creating an erotic piece of art with such discipline and patience that a masterpiece will be born.

Ahh, he knows me so well to make my body squirm and wiggle as it grapples with an explosion of the senses that only can be achieved through this form of touch.

And so, for my favorite word, I have chosen a picture of one of my favorite spanking models, one who in every word invokes sensuality with her face and her touch. In this picture the is very smirkishly biting sweet Sarah’s nipple. There is something about the way Kailee swings a paddle as if trying not so much to create pain, but to tantalize your ass into enjoying the spanking.

My husband has mentioned several times this year of his desire for me to top. I think my enjoyment as a bottom had more than sparked his curiosity. I smiled and said ok, but truthfully I was terrified. Topping, being a domme takes a certain amount of self-confidence, a true inner-power. As open as I am sexually, I am clearly lacking in the self-assurance department. I didn’t know if I could hold a straight face and enforce discipline, treating Chris like my sex slave being powerful and cocky at the same time.

I spent time planning different things I could do and ways to bind him to the bed so that he would still be accessible to me in every position I desired. I prepared for the evening, hoping to surprise him with a long and sensual session that would give him the full experience of losing all control. I still couldn’t go through with it, something kept holding me back. I finally decided if I was going to fulfill my husbands deepest fantasy I would have to work on building my self-confidence.

I have purchased the book The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance and I look forward to giving you a full review and a followup to what will hopefully be a very successful session.

What do you think makes a top? What inspires you as a domme?

Why is it that spanking, bondage, even crazy fun sex are things you must be in the closet about. Don’t get me wrong, sex is everywhere and even spanking seems to be makings its way into tv shows and mainstream media, but have you ever told someone you weren’t certain was into the same things you are. How often do you hear or see the words pervert, dirty, deviant in reference to sex? I am fairly active on several forums and it amazes me how many people have to lurk secretly for fear that they will be found out; how many people have not even shared their true feelings with their spouses. Why is it that we feel ashamed of something that has been natural for centuries?

I love sex and am not afraid to admit I love being tied up and spanked, but stores, other people, for some reason they want you to feel dirty for enjoying these things. The truth is that it takes guts to realize your fantasies, to share them with your significant others. To explore your fantasies in your mind, in words, to research and understand your feelings. Society has made us afraid of exploring our sexuality by referring to these feelings or actions as fetishes, using religion and culture to pressure people into hiding their desires.

I was raised in a house where sex was not taboo and it is because of this that I am so comfortable with exploring my feelings. I enjoy learning about new things and reading stories and articles. When I have the rare chance to talk to someone openly about sex or when reading a blog, I try to understand where they are coming from and ask them to describe the feeling. I can say that not everything is for me, but I applaud anyone who is not afraid to be open with themselves.

It was after talking to a spanko that my curiosity was sparked about spanking and pain. Her words, her hands gestures described an orgasmic state that we all secretly search for. She talked with an excitement and passion that I longed for.

It is these curiosities, these passionate feelings, the sensual exploration and the hilarious mishaps that I want to share. I hope everyone will feel welcome to share your stories along the way.

While I am often called Alexis, my alter ego Mistress Alex also makes a showing quite often. The thing about alter egos is that you can be anything you want, anybody you want. In junior high I had an identity crisis and wanted to be Monique. It took me until college to accept who I was and learn to share openly the things I craved.

A southern girl, I was raised in a house where spanking was an integral part of the discipline process and we experienced everything from hand spankings to the belt and the flyswatter. Corporal punishment was also still very prevalent in the school system at least through the end of grade school and I received more than one spanking session in the principals office. I can’t say though that I realized until marriage that I enjoyed a good tied up spanking.

I am very open sexually and have had fun trying new things along the way. I was around 16 when I found my dad’s copy of penthouse letters and needless to say I am still an avid subscriber. Our newest and most fun part of discovery has been several years of experimenting with bondage, domination and spanking. I hope to share some of our discoveries both good and bad, stories, site reviews and product reviews with you.