Why is enjoying sex so taboo?

Why is it that spanking, bondage, even crazy fun sex are things you must be in the closet about. Don’t get me wrong, sex is everywhere and even spanking seems to be makings its way into tv shows and mainstream media, but have you ever told someone you weren’t certain was into the same things you are. How often do you hear or see the words pervert, dirty, deviant in reference to sex? I am fairly active on several forums and it amazes me how many people have to lurk secretly for fear that they will be found out; how many people have not even shared their true feelings with their spouses. Why is it that we feel ashamed of something that has been natural for centuries?

I love sex and am not afraid to admit I love being tied up and spanked, but stores, other people, for some reason they want you to feel dirty for enjoying these things. The truth is that it takes guts to realize your fantasies, to share them with your significant others. To explore your fantasies in your mind, in words, to research and understand your feelings. Society has made us afraid of exploring our sexuality by referring to these feelings or actions as fetishes, using religion and culture to pressure people into hiding their desires.

I was raised in a house where sex was not taboo and it is because of this that I am so comfortable with exploring my feelings. I enjoy learning about new things and reading stories and articles. When I have the rare chance to talk to someone openly about sex or when reading a blog, I try to understand where they are coming from and ask them to describe the feeling. I can say that not everything is for me, but I applaud anyone who is not afraid to be open with themselves.

It was after talking to a spanko that my curiosity was sparked about spanking and pain. Her words, her hands gestures described an orgasmic state that we all secretly search for. She talked with an excitement and passion that I longed for.

It is these curiosities, these passionate feelings, the sensual exploration and the hilarious mishaps that I want to share. I hope everyone will feel welcome to share your stories along the way.